Behind every elite performance lies a series of invisible mental challenges that athletes must navigate daily.

For competitive and high-performance athletes, these challenges don’t just show up on game day they’re ever-present in training, school, social life, and even at home.

Understanding these mental hurdles is the first step to helping your athlete develop the resilience, focus, and confidence required to thrive not just in sport, but in life. As a parent, your role is critical. You don’t need to be a mental performance coach, but you can be your athlete’s best supporter by fostering a psychologically informed environment.

Let’s unpack the 5 core mental challenges every athlete faces and how you can support them.

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The 5 Mental Challenges

1. Pushing Through Discomfort

High performance requires doing hard things training when tired, recovering after failure, and staying committed when motivation fades. One of the biggest concerns of coaches at the next level is athletes who do not understand the difference between discomfort and pain.

Discomfort

Definition: A normal part of physical training and performance.
​Feels Like: Muscle fatigue, burning during exertion, breathlessness, soreness.
​When It Shows Up: During hard training, tough competition, or pushing limits.
​Meaning: Your body is working hard, adapting, and growing stronger.
​Response: Embrace it. Learn to manage and move through it. Mental training helps here.

Mental performance skill: Developing tolerance for discomfort builds resilience and mental toughness.

Pain

Definition: A signal that something may be wrong—possible injury or damage.
​Feels Like: Sharp, stabbing, throbbing, sudden, or worsening pain.
​When It Shows Up: During or after activity, in joints, bones, or tendons.
​Meaning: Warning sign. May indicate overuse, injury, or poor mechanics.
​Response: Stop. Get assessed. Do not push through.

Mental performance skill: Self-awareness and body signals tracking are essential to know when to pull back.

How Parents Can Help:

• Normalize discomfort as part of growth.
• Celebrate effort, not just outcome.
• Model perseverance in your own life.

2. Managing and Dealing with Distractions

Whether it’s social media, peer pressure, fear of judgment, or any other distraction that can derail focus and performance, an athlete’s ability to manage distractions and be mindful of them is key to enhancing performance.

How Parents Can Help:

• Encourage digital boundaries and recovery time.
• Help them develop a pre-competition routine that centers their focus.
• Avoid adding pressure by focusing only on outcomes—ask how they felt, not just how they did.

3. Staying Poised Under Pressure

Athletes are constantly evaluated by coaches, teammates, parents, and themselves let along scout! Pressure is part of the game. Learning to accept pressure and use it to their advantage through a solid mental performance program is important.

How Parents Can Help:

• Reinforce that their identity isn’t tied to results.
• Be a calm, steady presence in high-stakes moments.
• Offer reassurance and grounding strategies, like breath work or reframing.

4. Solving Problems on the Fly

Sport is chaotic. Great athletes make real-time decisions in complex environments. Those that solve problems and take action faster, often are the ones who are the most resilient and have staying power within their sport.

How Parents Can Help:

• Ask curiosity-driven questions like, “What was your thinking there?” instead of offering critique.
• Reinforce learning and adaptability over perfection.
• Praise their decision-making process, not just the outcome.

5. Managing Ego and Working With Others

Team success demands humility, trust, communication, and shared ownership. One of the most important factors to manage their ego and work with others is vulnerability.

How Parents Can Help:

• Model respect and cooperation in your own relationships.
• Discourage comparison and promote gratitude.
• Praise acts of leadership, sportsmanship, and being a good teammate.
• Show or model vulnerability.

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Why This Matters: Performance and Mental Health

These challenges aren’t just about winning; they’re about helping your athlete be well and stay well. Mental performance and mental health are deeply connected. When athletes feel safe, supported, and understood, they’re more likely to develop resilience, confidence, and long-term joy in sport.

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Final Reflection

Being a high-performance athlete is mentally demanding. But it’s also an incredible opportunity for growth—when they’re supported with care, perspective, and encouragement.

Reflective Question:​
​What’s one way I can support my athlete’s mental performance without adding pressure this week?

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Action Plan

Try This: After a game/match/competition, shift from “How did you do?” to “What did you learn?” or “What went well today?”

This simple change fosters reflection, reduces pressure, and supports emotional resilience.

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Resource of the Week

If sport is more mental than physical than training athletic intelligence that why do we train the physical more than the mental?

This week’s resource to help your athlete learn to think, reflect and ask questions is the F365 Pocket Coach.

With over 1500 and counting expert-vetted resources and strategies at your fingertips, the Pocket Performance Coach is your trusted companion to develop athletic intelligence through questions and self-reflection.

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Things to Explore

• Read: Our Reading Library​
• Download: Resource Guide Series​
• View: Previous Weekly Performance Concepts​

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